One of the most important interactions we may have in our lives is the relationship we have with other human beings. Positive relationships will enable us to feel safer, happier, and more pleased with our lives. So here are a few tips to help you to build more meaningful and safe relationships in all areas of your life:
1. Allow variations, and enjoy them.
One of the greatest obstacles in relationships that we face is that we’re all different. We can interpret the universe in many different ways. Certainly, the astounding barrier we come across as we attempt to establish relationships is a wish or hope that people should think as we do and, in this way, building a relationship is so much simpler. When we believe like people “get” us, we feel more relaxed and can see our point of view. However, life would be rather boring if we were all the same and, although we may find it easier at first, the appeal of sameness would soon wear off. So it is a perfect starting point to recognize and rejoice that we’re all special.
2. Listen efficiently
Listening is a crucial skill in boosting another person’s self-esteem, the silent form of flattery that makes people feel supported and valued. Listening and knowing what others say to us is the most critical aspect of positive interaction and vice versa.
Active or reflective listening is the single most effective and essential listening skill. Through active listening, we also are sincerely interested in learning what the other person is thinking, experiencing, needing, or what the message means, and we are diligent in testing out our learning until we reply with our own new message.
3. Offer people your time
Giving time to people is always a big gift. In a world where time is of the essence and we are struggling to fit in more than one lifetime, we don’t always have the time to devote to our loved ones, relatives, and work colleagues. Technology has also weakened our ability to establish real relationships and we attempt to multi-task by texting and talking at the same time.
Being present in the time you give to people is also crucial, so that, when you are with someone, you are genuine with someone and not living in the past or thinking about the future. The bond we make with other people is the very touchstone of our lives, and devoting time, energy, and effort to cultivating and building relationships is one of the most important life skills.
4. Improve your communications capabilities
Communication comes when someone knows you, not just when you’re talking. In communication, one of the greatest risks is that we can operate under the presumption that the other person has heard the message that we are trying to get across.
Poor workplace communication can lead to backstabbing and blame culture which, in effect, can affect our stress levels, particularly when we don’t understand anything or feel like we’ve been misled. This can also have a positive impact on productivity when it works well and motivates people to want to go into work and do a better job.
5. Controlling mobile technology
Around now, nearly everybody has a cell phone and there are two or three people in there. Although they are an emergency lifesaver and an important communication device, they can also be a total annoyance when people show a lack of etiquette for mobile phones.
6. Know how to give and take feedback
Feedback is the food of change in my mind, and while it might not always taste amazing, it can be very good for you. The opportunity to offer meaningful input to others helps them unlock their personal potential and can help build productive and mutually beneficial relationships. Any input you get from your own personal viewpoint is free knowledge and you can choose whether or not to take it on board. This will help you find your blind spot and come up with a new viewpoint. This is one of the best ways to develop positive relationships.
7. Develop Empathy
Empathy and awareness create interpersonal relations. It is a state of perceiving and attending to the feelings and needs of another person without accusing, providing advice or attempting to fix the situation. Empathy often involves “reading” the inner state of another person and interpreting it in such a way as to benefit the other person and to give support and create mutual trust.
Each relationship we have can teach us something, and we will be happier and more fulfilled by building positive relationships with others and feel more comfortable, compassionate and linked.
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